Part of being considered “different” in this world is learning not only to embrace and love yourself, but to learn to stand up for yourself. Others might help, but you need to learn to be your strongest advocate. #lgbtq #nofilter #ringlightselfie #hazeleyes #blondegirllife #pinkhighlights💕 #lgbt #decadeofari #maidenariana #transvengers #twitchaffiliate #ihaveapatreon #linksinprofile

I said I was taking a break, but I need to dust myself off. Today is too important as it marks a vital chance to highlight the transgender community beyond our individual life circles.

If you can safely be visible, join us in expressing your personal battles, joy, sadness, struggles, fears, victories, losses, loves.. your existence.

In another year where our collective lives are played with by far right legislation written by people who wish to erase us rather than learn about us. We exist, we fight, we proudly stand. From our first steps out into the world bravely showing who we truly are, to battling as a group for our very survival, we are all siblings.

The sum of a human being’s existence is not fixed at conception. We are a constantly changing beacon of life, a mass of cells that comes together in a myriad of beautiful & amazing ways. Those cells are driven to change based on more than an initial blueprint. Somehow, someway, there are those of us who are different than the basic human model. We are not deviants who chose a lifestyle, or evil, or sinners because we do not fit a false conception that there are only two molds. We are just honest about who we actually are.. bravely, boldy honest!

The slurs & lies used by those who push conformity & peddle in fear can’t stop every brave step you each take when you say unapologetically, “no, this is me.” You create change. You make the world brighter & better.

Pictured above shows the first time in March of 2015 that I finally was able to publicly step into the world & say “this is me & I’m just going about my day.” The lady at Goodwill gave me a caring smile & gentle nod as my quiet voice thanked her for my purchases. I knew I stood out, but I didn’t care, it was time to just be me.

Today, after all of the obstacles of trans healthcare, barriers in legal recognition of my gender, 65lbs of body weight lost, & 40 years of the weight of conformity lost, I am Ariana. I am beautiful, confident, happy in my existence as a whole human being. I will not be erased.

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As many of us look at the prospect of missing our friends at least in person for a while, I want to share a post about lasting friendship.

The photo with this post says a thousand words on its own. This past February, my friend Eric and I recreated a photo his mom took of us over 30 years ago.

Eric and I shared a love for technology and experienced the evolution of personal computing together, both being lucky enough to have parents that encouraged our interest. We were very ahead of our time 😉

Our strong friendship, though centered around our common hobbies, also had a lot to do with our shared temperament. We spent countless hours learning about computers and creating things with them, not just playing games. Because of that shared time, I have the career I have now.

We had so much in common it was uncanny, except for one very big difference that would become obvious many years later.

While I considered Eric to be like a same aged brother from another mother, it would not be until many years later that he learned I was actually his sister from another mother.

Though we’ve lived in separate states for many years now, he was the first person I fully came out to as transgender. His response was exactly what I would have expected. A response filled with care, acceptance, and offers of support.

In many ways telling him was the first step to me being able to be the open and honest person I am today with the world at large.

Be there for your friends, with real support and emotion, and don’t be afraid to be your true self with your friends. It makes a huge difference in their lives no matter their location on this planet. Let’s all draw closer together during this time and let people know we care.

Thank you Eric! Love you buddy! Your sister, Ariana 🙂

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